How can I get therapy for depression and still become a pilot?

My dream, which I am actively pursuing, is to become a commercial pilot. Unfortunately, I'm deeply depressed and have a lot of serious issues from my past. My real father died when I was nine years of age. During a stage of my childhood I was molested by an uncle. Then I lost my stepfather, who I became very close to, in my early teenage years. I fared the storms well, and up until recently I considered myself to be a strong person, an overcomer. But as of the last few years, my life seems to be falling apart, and my pain feels worse every day. I am struggling to deal with these problems on my own, but increasingly I'm feeling like it's a losing game. I need help, but if I am ever diagnosed with depression I will practically be unable to become a pilot, due to industry regulations. Technically it is possible, but it would be a long, uphill battle before I was ever allowed to fly. This is not a road that I am willing to go down. Despite my sadness, I am not suicidal, and I know that I am mentally healthy enough to be a superb pilot. Although I used to have great social skills and be a really popular guy, lately I can't seem to open up to others, let alone make a genuine friend. How can I go about getting therapy and become a healthy person again?